Why A Bride Regrets Not Hiring a Wedding Planner

Between, friends, family, great apps, and endless advice on the web, many people feel capable of tacking the wedding on their own. But as the date draws near and you keep hearing about your friend’s AMAZING event planner, you start to rethink your decision. And when things starts to go awry…cause they always do…you really start to wish you had someone with years of experience and patience on your team handing the situation.

I’m flashing back to hair and makeup running over two hours late messing up the photographer’s schedule, mostly because the mother-of-the-bride and sister-of-the-bride made the stylists redo their looks three times causing the bride to ruin her gorgeously applied makeup with tears of frustration. Not only did this mess with the photographer’s schedule, but also led to unsafe driving in our hurry to get to the church, getting dress without time to talk, and a very stressed bride who (originally) just wanted to enjoy the last few hours with her friends and family. The bride did not want to tell off her own family, so it was left to us bridesmaids to tell her family to knock it off and remember why and who we had all flown across the county to celebrate--the day was not about them. I just kept wishing there was someone else there to keep everyone on schedule and inline. One of the many reasons we adore event professionals! 

Many people throwing a celebration and look back and wish they would have hired a professional. A great blogger from Reflective Bride wrote such an articulate article that it was published of Huffington Post. She begins with:

In the early stages of preparing for our big day, we decided not to employ the services of a wedding planner… but in hindsight, oh, how I wish we had!

Why we didn’t
We had very little debate about whether or not to bring a wedding planner on board. Quite simply, I wanted us to handle all the preparations and vendor research ourselves. I thought it would be fun to do the research, and also felt that us looking into the suppliers was the only way to know all the options… so that we could make a truly informed decision and ensure we got the style we liked at the most reasonable price – not simply a wedding planner’s “usual” contacts. My groom was more than happy with this conclusion, since it saved us an extra line item in our bridal budget… and we were indeed worried that a wedding planner would be quite expensive.

Why we wish we had
Wedding tasks aren’t always fun. Sure, it’s a ball to ooh and aah over cake designs, but there’s nothing enjoyable about researching mini-buses for guest transport or making seating charts. There isn’t much joy in reviewing vendor contracts or keeping track of payments, either. Contrary to what I had thought, hiring a wedding planner doesn’t mean outsourcing your entire wedding; a wedding planner only handles what you want them to (support at the start to get you on the right track, on-the-day coordination only, or indeed the whole shebang) so won’t take over and choose your final bouquet design for you. So if do you want to drive your wedding planning, you can focus on the fun parts… and leave the boring bits to someone else.

Wedding planning is stressful. Wedding planning is not the romantic experience one expects it to be. There are many details to take care of, meddling family and friends might drive you crazy and vendors can be a source of drama. During our engagement, several recently married friends told me that in the final month before the wedding they had been so exhausted that they just wanted the day to be over. This ended up being true for me: in the final week I lost five pounds from stress, burst into tears a few times and my groom and I were snapping at each other. This is not how anyone’s planning should be. Bringing on board a professional planner to help and take some of the workload off our hands definitely would have made sense (and they probably could have given advice on managing family drama).

Click here to continuing reading the full article. Also, a shoutout to Saundra Hadley from Planning Forever Events who drew our attention to this article in her own extremely helpful blog.

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